As a member of the Solo Female Travellers’ Network on Facebook, I’ve seen countless posts from women who struggle with solo dining. It’s a common concern: one traveler even went an entire day without eating because she feared dining alone. Even friends in my city avoid eating out solo. As someone who has embraced solo dining, I’m sharing my tips on how to enjoy it and make it fun.

Start Dining Alone in Your Own City

Building confidence for solo dining can start at home. My sister advised me to begin small—starting with breakfast, which is quicker and less intimidating. Gradually, I worked my way up to lunch and then dinner. Familiarity with your city, its language, and its culture reduces the pressure and makes solo dining easier. Familiar spots also help you gauge restaurant prices and service times. Practicing at home will ease your transition to dining alone while traveling.

Begin with Small Steps

If solo dining feels daunting, start with a simple coffee or a quick breakfast. Gradually work up to more substantial meals like lunch or dinner. This gradual approach helps build confidence.

Do Your Research

Before heading to a restaurant, research your options. Consider how you’ll get there, the restaurant’s safety, and its reviews on sites like Facebook and TripAdvisor. Check if a reservation is needed and understand the local dining customs. In some cultures, solo dining might attract attention or be considered unusual. Knowing these details beforehand can help you feel more at ease.

Check Online Menus

Most restaurants offer online menus. Review these to decide what you want ahead of time. This way, you can order quickly and avoid feeling rushed. Remember to check the menu close to your dining time as it may change.

Opt for the Bar Area

If available, dining at the bar can be a more social and relaxed experience. It’s a great spot for first-time solo diners as you might engage with the bartender or other solo patrons.

Embrace People Watching

Solo dining gives you the opportunity to observe the world around you. Play a game of counting diners or noting different groups. It’s a fun way to pass time and stay engaged without feeling self-conscious.

Don’t Worry About Others

Remember, most people are focused on their own meals. Don’t let the fear of judgment affect your dining experience. Everyone has their own life and challenges; don’t let the perception of others ruin your solo adventure.

Be Confident

Stand tall, make eye contact, and smile. If you’re nervous, act confidently. With practice, solo dining will become second nature.

Dress Comfortably

Wear something that makes you feel good and is comfortable. Avoid overly tight clothing that could make you uncomfortable, especially if you plan to enjoy a substantial meal.

Use Props to Your Advantage

Travel-related props like maps, guidebooks, or interesting clothing can serve as conversation starters. If you’re comfortable with it, use these to engage with others or simply enjoy your time. Props can also help if you’re looking for a way to pass the time.

Make a Reservation

Booking a table in advance ensures you won’t be turned away and helps secure a good seat. This is particularly useful for popular restaurants or during busy times.

Be Kind to the Staff

Treat restaurant staff with respect. If there’s an issue with your meal, address it politely. Good manners can lead to better service and potentially perks like free dessert.

Ask About Smaller Portions

Don’t hesitate to request smaller portions or modifications to your meal. Many restaurants are willing to accommodate solo diners with tailored options.

Enjoy a Drink

A moderate drink can help ease any nerves, but stay aware of your surroundings. If you don’t drink, find other ways to relax, such as a soothing bath or listening to calming music.

Use a Placeholder

If you need to step away, use a non-valuable item as a placeholder to keep your table. Avoid leaving expensive items unattended.

Dine Earlier

Eating out early means fewer crowds and a more relaxed atmosphere. It’s a great way to enjoy a quieter dining experience.

Don’t Settle for a Bad Seat

If your reserved seat isn’t ideal, speak up. Aim for a table with a good view or a pleasant ambiance. If necessary, escalate the issue to a manager.

Consider Sharing a Table

If you’re open to it, sharing a table can be a way to meet new people. Opt for friendly groups rather than those who might make you feel uncomfortable.

Explore Communal Tables

Some restaurants feature communal tables where you can dine alongside others. It’s a unique way to engage with fellow diners and might be worth trying.

Try Local Cuisine

Use solo dining as an opportunity to sample local dishes. Embrace culinary adventures and enjoy unique foods that you might not encounter elsewhere.

Indulge Yourself

Solo dining is your chance to treat yourself. Order that extra dessert or splurge on a fancy meal. Without the need to consider others’ preferences, enjoy every moment of your meal.

I hope these tips help make your solo dining experiences enjoyable and stress-free. Feel free to reach out if you’d like to comment, chat, or collaborate. Follow me on Instagram for more travel insights, and I’d be happy to return the favour!

Happy travels!