As a female solo traveler who has explored Belgium, the Netherlands, France, Germany, and Austria on my own, I’ve gathered valuable insights and strategies to enhance your solo travel experience. Solo travel can be incredibly rewarding, but it comes with its own set of challenges. Here are some essential tips to help aspiring solo female travellers make the most of their journeys:

 Walk with confidence

Even if you’re feeling unsure, try not to look lost. Avoid carrying a map in hand, as it can signal to others that you’re a tourist. Instead, use Google Maps discreetly with earphones for directions. If you need help, step into a coffee shop or restaurant and ask a staff member. Confidence is key—appearing confident reduces the likelihood of being targeted by opportunistic individuals.

 Master the resting “bitch face”

Developing a strong, assertive demeanor can help deter unwanted attention. It’s unfortunate, but solo female travellers are sometimes perceived as vulnerable, and some individuals may view this as an opportunity. Cultivate a serious, unapproachable expression when needed. It’s about creating an impression that you are not to be messed with, ensuring that you’re perceived as someone who will stand up for herself if necessary.

Be assertive

Being assertive is crucial, especially in situations where you need assistance or when dealing with difficult staff. If you miss a flight or face any issues, assertively communicate your needs. For example, I once had to firmly address a staff member who was more interested in lecturing me about my missed flight than helping me resolve the issue. Being assertive isn’t about being rude—it’s about standing your ground and ensuring your needs are addressed. If you encounter unwanted attention or harassment, assertively say “no” and do not hesitate to create a scene if necessary. Many women are taught that assertiveness is a masculine trait, but it’s an essential skill for solo travellers.

Trust your gut

Your intuition is a powerful tool. I once ignored my gut feeling about a situation in Amsterdam, which led to an uncomfortable experience. Trust your instincts—if something feels off, it’s better to err on the side of caution. For instance, I once turned down an offer from a stranger to see his bicycle, which I had no interest in. Trusting your instincts helps you avoid potentially dangerous situations. However, there are also times when following your gut can lead to positive outcomes. For example, I read about a woman who, despite breaking her ankle, trusted her instincts and accepted help from a newly met friend, which proved to be beneficial.

Get used to eating alone

Dining alone is a common concern for many solo travelers, but it can be a rewarding experience with the right mindset. Having dined solo in Cape Town before my travels, I’ve honed my skills in enjoying meals on my own. If you’re new to solo travel or find dining alone challenging, here are some tips to make the experience more enjoyable:

Embrace Solo Dining with Confidence

• Ignore the Stares: One of the biggest hurdles to dining alone is the fear of being judged. In reality, most people are too focused on their own meals to notice you. If anyone does glance your way, remember they are strangers and their opinions don’t matter. Focus on your meal and your own enjoyment.
• Leverage Your Independence: If you’ve successfully traveled solo to your destination, dining alone should be a breeze. You’ve already demonstrated your bravery and independence by navigating new places on your own. Eating out alone is simply another opportunity to enjoy your independence.
• Enjoy the Freedom: Solo dining offers a unique chance to reflect on your travels and savour your meal without distractions. Embrace this time to relax and enjoy your own company.

Get used to couples who are so in love

During my travels to Paris and Venice, two of the world’s most romantic cities, I experienced the unique challenges and joys of solo travel. While my boyfriend was back in South Africa, I explored these enchanting destinations on my own. Despite making new friends along the way, I missed sharing moments like a kiss atop the Eiffel Tower or a gondola ride in Venice with him.

• Enjoy Your Independence: Solo travel offers the freedom to do exactly what you want, when you want. There’s no need for compromise, which allows you to immerse yourself fully in the experience. Revel in the ability to make spontaneous decisions and enjoy your own company.
• Focus on Personal Growth: Traveling alone can be a chance for personal growth. You’ll develop new skills and gain a focused perspective on your surroundings. Without distractions, you will find yourself appreciating the details you might otherwise overlook.
• Perspective on Relationships: While you might see couples enjoying romantic moments or facing their own challenges, remember that relationships have ups and downs. Observing happy couples or even those in conflict can help you appreciate your solo journey and the peace it brings.
• Cherish the Moment: Whether you encounter an endearing older couple still in love or find joy in your own independence, solo travel is an opportunity to love and understand yourself better. Embrace the experience and recognise that love comes in many forms, including the self-love you cultivate during your travels.

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Acknowledge Loneliness During Solo Travel

When travelling alone, it’s natural to miss your friends, family, pets, and familiar comforts from home. You will find yourself surrounded by crowds of people who seem connected and feel like a solitary outsider. It’s important to face these feelings rather than ignore them.

Tips for Managing Loneliness:

• Stay Connected: Reach out to loved ones through texts, calls, or video chats. Sharing your feelings with people who care can provide comfort and reassurance.
• Acknowledge Your Emotions: Accept that loneliness is a part of the solo travel experience. Feel your emotions without letting them overwhelm you. Recognize that these feelings are temporary and manageable.
• Distract Yourself: Engage in activities that keep you occupied and shift your focus away from negative thoughts. Exploring new places, trying new foods, or taking up a hobby can provide positive distractions.
• Connect with Other Solo Travellers: You’re not alone in your solo travel experience. Seek out other solo travellers to share stories and build new friendships. Often, these connections can be surprisingly meaningful.
• Embrace Your Independence: Use this time to enjoy your own company and explore new interests. Solo travel is an opportunity to focus on yourself and what you enjoy without compromise.

Remember, it’s okay to feel lonely at times. By staying connected with loved ones, engaging in activities you enjoy, and building new connections, you can turn these moments into valuable experiences that enrich your solo journey. Embrace this time to discover more about yourself and enjoy the adventure.

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Learn to strike up a conversation

Engaging with new people can enrich your solo travel experience. Here’s how to start a conversation:

• Be Approachable: Show positive body language and be friendly. Wear something distinctive or carry a book to make it easier for people to approach you.
• Utilize Props: If you’re in a restaurant or pub, place your guidebook or maps on the table. This signals that you’re open to conversation.
• Ask Locals for Recommendations: Inquire about their favorite local spots. This can lead to shared experiences and new discoveries.
• Offer to Buy a Drink: This simple gesture can be a great icebreaker.
• Remember, the key is to be genuine.

People appreciate authenticity, so avoid feigning interest. Be yourself, be kind, and let your true personality shine through.

Ignore people who pity you

While many will support your solo adventures, you may encounter naysayers who question your decision to travel alone. Here’s how to handle them:

• Address Concerns Calmly: For those who are genuinely concerned, explain your safety measures and travel plans. Share your itinerary, travel insurance, and accommodation details with trusted individuals.
• Respond to Critics: Politely explain that traveling alone is a personal choice and that it enriches your life. You can counter comments like “You should find a husband to travel with” by emphasizing that solo travel helps you grow and become a better partner in the future.
• Ignore Negativity: Some comments will come from those who are spiteful or mean-spirited. It’s best to ignore them and stay focused on enjoying your trip. Don’t let toxic people dampen your adventure.

Up your street smarts

Staying safe as a solo traveler requires vigilance:

• Research Scams: Before you travel, look up common scams in your destination. Travel blogs and tourism boards often provide valuable information about potential risks.
• Be Street Smart: Familiarize yourself with local customs and stay aware of your surroundings. This will help you avoid common pitfalls and stay safe.

 Take care of your camera equipment

Your camera is essential for capturing your travel memories:

• Protect Your Gear: Since you’re traveling alone, it’s crucial to take care of your camera. Consider removing the memory card and keeping it in a secure location if you’re not actively taking photos.
• Secure Your Equipment: Losing your camera often means losing your photos. Ensure that your camera and memory cards are always within your reach.

 

Learn to take good solo photos

Capturing great solo photos can be challenging, but with the right tools, it’s achievable:

• Use Photography Tools: Utilize selfie sticks, phone timers, remote clickers, and tripods to enhance your solo shots. These tools help you take high-quality photos even when traveling alone.
• Practice Makes Perfect: Over time, you’ll improve your technique. Don’t be discouraged by initial attempts; practice will lead to better results.

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Find Your Tribe: Connecting with Fellow Solo Female Travellers

Meeting other solo female travelers can enhance your journey and help you build lasting friendships. Here’s how to find your tribe:

• Join Online Communities: Platforms like Facebook have dedicated groups such as the Solo Female Travelers Network. These communities are excellent for connecting with like-minded women.
• Explore Travel Forums: Websites like She’s Wanderful offer opportunities to connect with other female travelers. These forums can be valuable for finding travel buddies and sharing experiences.
• Network During Your Trip: Engage with fellow travellers you meet on the road. Many women maintain friendships from their travels and support each other through various networks.

By actively seeking out and engaging with these communities, you can enrich your solo travel experience and potentially make lifelong friends. Happy networking!

Wishing you happy travels!